These are not the quotes or sayings but a list of different rules of etiquette written over 100 years ago and some of the suggestions are a bit archaic and random, the advice is still strikingly resonant. It manages to cover many, many of the gaps in etiquette which have transformed society into a veritable Swiss cheese of incivility. If a man puts these suggestions into practice, he will definitely set himself apart for the other knuckleheads out there. Here is to becoming more refined gentlemen and women

--Never exaggerate.
--Never point at another, especially when many people are present.
--Never betray a confidence.
--Never leave home with unkind words.
--Never neglect to call upon your friends.
--Never laugh at the misfortunes of others.
--Never give a promise that you do not fulfill.
--Never send a present, hoping for one in return.
--Never speak much of your own performances.
--Never fail to be punctual at the time appointed.
--Never make yourself the hero of your own story.
--Never pick the teeth or clean the nails in company.

--Never fail to give a polite answer to a civil question.
--Never question a child about family matters.
--Never present a gift saying that it is of no use to yourself.
--Never read letters which you may find addressed to others.
--Never fail, as a gentleman, of being civil and polite to ladies.
--Never call attention to the features or form of anyone present.
--Never refer to a gift you have made, or favor you have rendered.
--Never associate with bad company. Have good company, or none.
--Never look over the shoulder of another who is reading or writing.

--Never appear to notice a scar, deformity, or defect of anyone present.
--Never arrest the attention of an acquaintance by touch. Speak to him.
--Never punish your child for a fault to which you are addicted yourself.
--Never answer questions in general company that have been put to others.
--Never, when traveling abroad, be over boastful in praise of your own country.
--Never call a new acquaintance by their first name unless requested.
--Never lend an article you have borrowed, unless you have permission to do so.
--Never attempt to draw the attention of the company constantly upon yourself.
--Never exhibit anger, impatience or excitement, when an accident happens.
--Never pass between two persons who are talking together, without an apology.

--Never enter a room noisily; never fail to close the door after you, and never slam it.
--Never forget that, if you are faithful in a few things, you may be ruler over many.
--Never exhibit too great familiarity with the new acquaintance, you may give offense.
--Never will a gentleman allude to conquests which he may have made with ladies.
--Never be guilty of the contemptible meanness of opening a private letter addressed to another.
--Never fail to offer the easiest and best seat in the room to an invalid, an elderly person, or a lady.
--Never neglect to perform the commission which the friend entrusted to you. You must not forget.
--Never send your guest, who is accustomed to a warm room, off into a cold, damp, spare bed, to sleep.